Here’s another bit I dug out from my computer files. I had heard this from one of Marsha Linehan‘s post-doctoral students.
(Four) Options for Responding to Any Problem:
(1) Solve the problem. Leave, get out of the situation for good, or change the situation.
(2) Feel better about the problem. Regulate your emotional response to the problem.
(3) Tolerate the problem. Accept and tolerate both the problem and your response to the problem.
(4) Stay miserable.
What options did you choose today?