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Termination (II).

During psychiatry training, residents are assigned “psychotherapy supervisors”. The resident sees a psychotherapy patient and then meets with his supervisor to review the session. Sometimes this means the resident will dump onto paper everything he can remember about the session: “She said A, that made me think about B, so I said C, and then she replied with D”. Sometimes, with the patient’s permission, the resident records the session on audio- or videotape. Together, supervisor and resident later review this data. The supervisor provides feedback and suggestions to teach the resident about psychotherapy and how to proceed with treatment.

During my last year of residency, one of my supervisors was a psychoanalyst. Every week, I went to her private office for supervision. A plush psychotherapy couch was near the window. She sat in the chair behind the head of the couch. I sat in the chair across from her.

About four months prior to my graduation, my patient—a man who had been single for several years—started dating a woman who worked in health care. I thought this was a positive development: Maybe he had learned that others did not share the opinion he had of himself. Maybe he learned to view himself with more compassion. Maybe he had developed more confidence when interacting with women.

When I shared this information with my supervisor, she looked at me with disbelief. She insisted that this was his reaction to termination.

“It’s a flight into health,” she said. “He’s found this woman now because you’re leaving.”

What is a “flight into health”? Malan says:

[It is] a concept which at first sight may seem to contain an inherent paradox. The paradox can be resolved by making it clear that the flight is into apparent health—the patient believes he has recovered but the clinician believes that unsolved underlying conflicts will give rise to more or less serious difficulty in the future…. [A flight into health may be] a way of avoiding either further painful conflicts or anxiety-laden feelings about [the] therapist. (p. 219)

“She works in health care, you work in health care. You are an important person in his life; he wants this new person to be an important person in his life. Don’t you think it’s interesting that he found this relationship right when you are about to leave?”

It was my turn to look at her with disbelief.

“How do you know this is all about me? How can you be so sure?”

My supervisor and I often revisited this topic in the remainder of our meetings. In fact, she wondered if my opposition to her suggestion was significant in our termination, the end of our educational relationship. (And, as psychiatrists are trained to do, we talked about it. Neither one of us changed our opinions.)

Though I disagreed with her assertion about my patient, I was more vexed with her unshakable confidence in her hypothesis. How could she know that she was absolutely correct?

Malan summarizes my sentiments about this issue:

… the therapist sees all the problems that his brief therapy has not resolved, and—in ignorance of systematic follow-up evidence—has no faith in the patient’s ability to mature further. (p. 218, emphasis mine)

Frick also argues that the concept of “flight into health” is cynical.

Neither my supervisor nor I pursued follow-up with this man. Only time would tell if his relationship signified recovery or avoidance.

To be clear, “flights into health” can happen. Some people find it much easier to believe that their conditions have improved, rather than acknowledge and endure “the pain and anxiety of further exploration and self-disclosure” (Frick).

Whether related to termination or not, what we say or think about someone often reveals more about us than about the person in question.

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Termination (I).

In mental health, termination is the word used to describe the process of ending psychotherapy. Note the word “process”: Termination should not be an anvil falling from the sky. Under ideal circumstances, patient and therapist address termination during their initial meeting.

Think of termination as an exit interview for psychotherapy that spans several appointments. Patient and therapist review what the patient learned about herself, her accomplishments and goals (did she reach them? did they change during the course of therapy? if so, why? etc.), her reactions to and opinions about treatment, and how she might use the experiences in therapy to help her in the future.

In this way, termination facilitates closure, that “often comforting or satisfying sense of finality”.

Termination can be a Big Deal because, for many people, the end of meaningful relationships is difficult. People can experience emotions that are not only distressing, but also compel them to behave in ways that are neither helpful nor effective. Think about a relationship you had that you believe ended poorly: The girlfriend or boyfriend who dumped you. The unexpected death of a parent or sibling whom you both loved and disliked. The dear friend who drifted away, purposely or not.

Sometimes, even for those uncomplicated relationships that end “well”, we feel conflicting emotions about them. Loss is difficult for most, if not all, people. It’s hard to say good-bye.

Thus, ideally, termination is neither abrupt nor unexpected. Both patient and therapist may recognize that the patient has achieved the goals of therapy (determined at the outset of treatment and adjusted accordingly, right?). In this instance, termination makes sense. Nevertheless, patient and therapist may still feel powerful emotions while going through this exit interview.

In reality, termination can be both abrupt and unexpected. Patients move; therapists move; the Stuff of life interferes with and prematurely ends the therapeutic relationship. If the patient feels connected to the therapist, the patient may then activate old habits of dealing with loss and strong emotions. These habits may have been the very things that brought the patient into treatment. Many therapists therefore believe that termination is the most important aspect of psychotherapy.

In the next few posts, I will write more about the reactions people—patients and therapists—may have during termination.

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Leaving New York.

My first visit to New York City happened when I was eleven years old. My memories from that trip are hazy, though I clearly remember the taxi ride from the airport to midtown Manhattan. The sun had already set. All the windows of the taxi were rolled down. The warm evening air, honking from car horns, and twinkling city lights flooded the interior of the cab.

I was squashed between my parents in the back seat. They said nothing. The taxi swerved around cars, stopped suddenly, and blew through red traffic lights. Sitting stiffly, heads jutted forward, and hands balled into fists, they were terrified that they were going to die.

I looked out the window. Sleek buildings loomed above us. People swarmed the sidewalks. Carts selling fragrant foods were parked on street corners. Rows of shop signs illuminated the night.

I was thrilled. I decided that, one day, I would live in New York.

Three years ago, I was blessed with the opportunity to do just that.

My time here is coming to an end. I was recruited for a job in Seattle. Though I state with pride that I am a “West Coast person”, I have mixed feelings about leaving New York.

For the next few months, more posts than usual will focus on New York City. Recording these stories will help me remember my time here. I don’t want to forget.

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Routines.

The alarm began to ring. Refusing to acknowledge the morning, he reached over and patted the nightstand. Only when his fingers wrapped around his cell phone did he finally open one eye. He squinted. Then he groaned.

After plodding through his morning routine, he put on a dark suit and light necktie. The leather laptop bag bumped against his hip as he exited the apartment. He reflexively looked down, only to remember that he had cancelled the newspaper a month ago.

As he walked into the deli, the man with the funny hair walked out. They waved to each other. This is what they did every weekday for the past four years. He knew that the elderly woman in front of him would order—

“Small coffee, cream, no sugar, and an egg bagel with butter.”

As she shuffled away, he wondered if any of them noticed the change in his routine.

“Good morning, chief,” the man behind the counter said. “The usual?”

“Yeah, thanks.”

He fished a five dollar bill out of his wallet. He knew that he should make his own breakfast and stay at home. He couldn’t do it. Routines were difficult to change. He hoped that things would return to normal again soon.

“Have a good day,” the man behind the counter said as he stuffed napkins into the white sack. “See ya tomorrow.”

From the deli, he usually walked three blocks north and entered the skyscraper. He hadn’t gone there in over three months. His boss had said, “Look, I’m sorry, you’re a good guy and all, but we just can’t afford to to pay you.”

So now, he instead walked five blocks east with his coffee and muffin to the public space with free WiFi. While he was setting up his laptop to review classified ads online, a man in sagging jeans and a soiled sweatshirt walked past. In his hand was a tall aluminum can in a brown paper bag.

Taking a sip from his coffee, the other man thought, It’s five o’ clock somewhere.

The man had bought the aluminum can in the brown paper bag from the bodega around the corner. He was celebrating his morning’s success.

His day started at 3:30am because he knew that the sanitation trucks would arrive around 6:00am. He also wanted to avoid the morning rush. People in the neighborhood often yelled at him and threatened to call the police. His cart, when full, was bulky and difficult to maneuver in the crowds as they streamed towards the subway.

This morning, the superintendent of a high-rise apartment building saw him pushing his cart.

“Hey, Papi!” the superintendent said, waving at him. “Take my bags.”

The five overstuffed bags could not fit in his cart. He was delighted.

Aluminum cans and plastic bottles earned him five cents a piece. He was smiling as he pushed the cart forty blocks uptown. On a good day, he could pull in $100. With this donation from the superintendent, he got close to $200.

“Thank you!” he exclaimed when the grocery clerk put the cash into his hands. He stuffed the wrinkled bills into his tattered wallet and walked into the bodega. When he reached the back of the store, he opened the refrigerator case. Instead of plucking out a single can of beer, he decided to splurge.

“A case today, huh?” the bodega clerk murmured.

“It’s a good day,” he said.

Routines were difficult to change. He knew that things would return to normal again soon.

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The Wisdom of Children.

The nurse saw the little girl standing in the hallway. She was holding her mother’s hand.

“Hello, Clara! Look at you! You’re so cute in that pretty dress.”

“Thank you,” Clara said, looking down. Her feet swiveled against the tiled floor like windshield wipers. “Where’s my daddy?”

“He’s still seeing patients, but he’ll be back soon.”

Clara’s large eyes saw a clot of doctors in the arterial of the hospital ward. A few of them dislodged and floated into patient rooms.

Smiling at Clara, her mother asked, “Do you want to be a doctor like Daddy?”

Clara grimaced. “No. I don’t wanna be around sick people all the time.”